There are plenty of reasons why divorces can be necessary. Issues such as addiction and infidelity are common and understandable reasons why they occur.
However, divorces can be very messy. The average cost for one is $12,900. In addition, children of divorced parents are more likely to live in poverty.
Therefore, seeing a couples therapist may be the better option for you and your significant other. However, most couples may not know when it’s time to start couples counseling. If this is you, read on to learn four signs to look for.
1. Feeling Indifferent Towards Each Other
Some signs of marital issues don’t have to do with loud arguments and/or fights. Sometimes the signs show up in the form of silence and lack of action. In a way, couples can feel more like they’re roommates or just occupying the same space as each other.
Does your relationship lack intimacy and/or any interaction at all? Does your partner not care about what’s going on in your life? It may be worth looking into marriage counseling services.
2. There’s an Issue That Can’t Be Solved
Oftentimes, couples can get stuck on a particular issue and cannot find a solution. As a result, they keep cycling back to the same problem again and again during arguments. Common issues include finances, infidelity, and a problematic child.
A marriage therapist can help a couple finally solve what seems like a neverending argument. Therefore, it may be worth it to keep track of the issues that come up in your arguments. If something seems to keep coming up and not going away, it may be time to let a third party help get it solved.
3. They’re About to Be Married
Sometimes couples don’t go to a relationship therapist because they’re having problems. They utilize this service to build a stronger relationship before they tie the knot.
Doing so can help the couple talk through their expectations of marriage before it happens. This can help prevent any potential problems down the line. They can discuss what they want in a marital relationship as far as kids, finances, and so on are concerned.
4. Lies Are Being Told or Secrets Are Being Kept
Communication is a key part of keeping a relationship intact. When that isn’t present, the trust that partners have in each other can erode. They may suspect each other of malicious actions and this can make it difficult for them to remain together.
A therapist can gently bring these lies and secrets to light and find the reasons behind them. It may be that they weren’t such a big deal after all.
If You Need a Couples Therapist, Consider Our Services
In sum, a couples therapist is your best option when your relationship problems just can’t be solved without help. It may be difficult to accept that you and your partner need this help. However, you’ll likely be glad if you get it.
If you decide to get couples counseling, consider our services. We offer practical, authentic, and effective therapeutic skills to help get your relationship back on track. Contact us today for a free 15-minute consultation.
Honor Your Emotions is a therapy practice in Dublin, CA serving the East Bay Area including Pleasanton, San Ramon, Livermore and Danville.
Call (925) 577-4732 today for a free consultation!
