Today’s post is all about breakups.
Let’s face it — we all experience breakups.
Whether you are on the giving or the receiving end at some point and time in your personal or professional life you will experience a separation of some kind.
When separations or breakups happen it can be tough, but you will get through it.
Here are a few steps to help you get through this season in your life:
1). It’s a season.
Let’s pause a moment and really meditate on that. No matter the pain of grief, abscession of a romantic relationship, a friendship or a rift between someone close with you — remember this is just a moment in your wonderfully full life.
________ Life goes on. ________
I don’t share that to be harsh, but to help you see that every day the sun shines you get another chance to smell the roses and turn this thing right side up.
Now that you’re thinking in the right mindset let’s hop to number two.
2). Do something.
With each day you wake up to a new day make the best of it. Somethings, like healing, can happen over time. So chip at it a little every day. No rush here.
Read books, meditate, activate positive-prayer-power, join a dance class, go running or pick up a new healthy-fun hobby. Just go and do it! Get out there.
Don’t wait for the feeling or the mood to change first before you “feel” like getting out there. Drag yourself out there, I promise you will feel better. One step at a time, one after another and keep going.
3). Emotional support
I love recommending groups. Make sure they are supportive and uplifting. Ensure they are atmospheres that elevate you not nagging, complaining or negative-nancy groups.
Another thing I love to recommend is therapy. At times you just need a third person outside of your friends and family to help you see the situation clearly.
Support during this time is crucial. Let’s get real one second if you’re being honest with yourself you know you need more than “friend” support. Call a professional, this is what they are trained to do.
4). Quiet things down.
Most people will tell you “busyness” is good during this time as you try to get over someone. While you certainly need to get your mind off of the sadness of the separation, don’t mistake busyness for “handling it”.
The only way to really get to the bottom of the pain is to set aside a set amount of time for stillness. Quiet down your life and do an inward reflection. This is something we are experts at here at Honor Your Emotions, helping you reflect and point out strategies for tackling what you may discover.
The key here is to not put yourself in isolation.
Pro Tip: balance getting out and taking your mind off of things while honoring your spirit by setting time aside for personal reflection.
Life Tip: Full healing, mind, body, and soul.
5). No replacements
Therapy is not rebounding. You want to heal fully not fill that gap with something else.
Go ahead and process the pain appropriately. That way when the next situation shows up you are fully healed and ready to receive. Operate at your fullest most complete self. I want you to fill up on all the joy you can stand.
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