You get assigned a project at work or prepare a presentation for school and all you can think is, “I feel like a fraud.” You worry that you don’t have the tools and skills to meet expectations and you’re convinced that someday, everyone will find out.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Research shows that imposter syndrome is common, particularly among minorities. The good news is that imposter syndrome is reflective of your mindset, not your reality.
What can you do to overcome these feelings of inadequacy? Read on to learn how to cope with anxiety and the imposter syndrome it fuels.
Tell Someone Who Knows You
When you’re living in self-doubt, one of the first lines of defense is to see yourself through someone else’s eyes. While anxiety (especially social anxiety) can make it difficult to feel connected to others, it’s helpful to break down those walls and tell someone who knows you well how you’re feeling. A trusted loved one can remind you of your strengths when you’re struggling to see them on your own.
Take Ownership of Your Accomplishments
Do you often feel like anything good that has happened to you, whether it’s a good grade on a test or a promotion at work, was a fluke? This is another common experience for people who struggle with anxious feelings. To combat that feeling that you’re hiding secret inadequacies, make a list of all those good things and the specific skills and hard work you put in to make them happen.
Challenge Perfectionism
Because anxiety and imposter syndrome create that overpowering fear of failure, many people end up striving for perfection and feeling like anything less is a failure. Believe it or not, the opposite of failure is not perfection. Instead, focus on doing your best, whatever that looks like each day, and accept that mistakes are all part of the learning process.
Cherish Your Path
It’s hard not to compare ourselves to others, especially in the age of social media. When you’re looking at your role models and idols and feeling inspired to pursue your dreams, a little comparison is healthy.
However, too much comparison can fuel your sense that you aren’t good enough. The truth is that no matter where you are on your path, you’re always enough.
Check Out Imposter Syndrome Therapy
Imposter syndrome doesn’t just create negative voices in your head. It can also lead to unhealthy coping mechanisms, strained relationships, and a fear of chasing after your goals. Professional counseling services can help you address the source of your imposter syndrome and improve your self-image and mental health.
I Feel Like a Fraud: Leave Imposter Syndrome Behind
More people than you may realize move through their day thinking, “I feel like a fraud.” When you’re battling anxiety and imposter syndrome, you’re not seeing yourself clearly. Professional counseling can help.
Tangia Hardy founded Honor Your Emotions, Inc. to bring her experience as a licensed social worker to people of various ethnic backgrounds. If you’re ready to stop fighting your emotions and learn how to honor them, contact us today.
