Are you going through a rough patch or some troubles in your marriage or relationship? Why wait five or ten years while tearing each other apart to find a solution or to seek out therapy?
Picking a couples therapist right now who can help resolve your issues could save you a lot of angst, worries, and stress. But choosing the best therapist isn’t easy either.
Keep reading for some tips that could help in that regard.
1. Choose Someone Who Works for Both of You
If you wish to resolve some common disputes between the two of you, start by choosing a couples therapist who is suitable for both of you, not just one of you.
What happens commonly is that one side of the couple is more enthusiastic about getting therapy than the other and they end up choosing the therapist that they wish to work with. This could result in conflicts if the other party feels like they weren’t involved in the decision-making process and if they don’t mesh well with the therapist chosen.
2. Don’t Choose Someone Who Takes Sides
This isn’t as common as the first mistake, but sometimes you might end up choosing a therapist who tends to take one party’s side over another. This isn’t the way you are going to resolve any issues, by ganging up on one person.
That’s why it’s important to choose an empathic therapist, but also objective, and rational. Reading online reviews on therapists will help you figure this out easier.
3. Choose Someone Who Is About Finding Solutions
You don’t want to spend months or years in couples therapy just for the sake of it. Not only is your time too precious for that, but it’s also not cost-effective or useful.
Your goal when searching for a couples counselor or therapist is to find someone who is all about figuring out what the end goal of the therapy is and reaching it as soon as possible. You also want to find someone who outlines goals for each session and works towards fulfilling them, so you feel that you are making progress rather than just chattering away uselessly.
4. Don’t Choose Someone Out of Your Budget
Comparing therapy costs is a useful thing to do because you don’t want to end up with a couples therapist who costs too much and breaks your budget. The more affordable your couples therapy, the more likely you are to stick with it for a while.
This doesn’t mean that you go with the cheapest option, but you want to keep cost in mind when choosing your therapist.
Picking a Couples Therapist Doesn’t Have to Be Hard
Don’t make it harder on yourself than it has to be when picking a couples therapist. Avoid the common mistakes laid out above and you should be well on your way to choosing the best therapist to help resolve the issues in your relationship.
Interested in counseling for couples in California? Contact us by form or phone at (925) 577-4732 for a free consultation!
Honor Your Emotions is a therapy & counseling practice in Dublin, CA. We serve the East Bay Area including Pleasanton, San Ramon, Livermore and Danville.
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