Self-security is important for achieving and maintaining a healthy, happy, and fulfilled life. Learn more about self-security and how to improve yours below.
Do you ever feel “impostor syndrome” or have thoughts like, “I am not good enough”?
Or, do you find yourself questioning “what the heck is my purpose? What am I doing here?”
You are not alone, that’s the good news. These thoughts, which are related to a lack of self-security are fairly common for many people.
By definition, self-security is security in one’s self, position, or situation.
You can view the self as the system that organizes our experiences, including thoughts, feelings, and attitudes.
About the term “insecurity”
Many people struggle with the term insecurity. We simply do not like it.
No one really wants to admit they have levels of insecurity, because our culture may deem this word as weak. And let’s be honest, self-love and mental health are buzz words that are all the rage right now.
Now before you opt-out and say “that’s not me.” Hear me out.
Insecurity simply means one of two things:
a). Uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; a lack of confidence
b). A state of being open to danger or a threat; a lack of protection
Other words you can use in place of insecurity:
- Self-doubt
- Uncertainty
- Inhibition
- Anxiety
- Worry
- Hesitance
- Apprehension
Do any of those words hit home? Let’s be honest even I, your therapist, feel apprehension, self-doubt, and worry from time to time.
Like I always say we are on this journey of life. It is not about perfection but about growth and forward progress.
Honoring your emotions
Instead of staying in a state of denial, I want you to honor your emotions, by acknowledging yes, I too have experienced these emotions.
The next step is to identify when these emotions are triggered for you. This is something I want you to reflect on.
Grab a pen and paper and write down (this is important do not skip this):
- When do I get triggered?
- When do I feel self-doubt, insecurity, worry, anxiety, etc?
Writing this down actually moves the thought out of your body (in this case the mind) and puts it onto the page. Let’s let the feeling go for a moment and brain dump it all out on a piece of paper.
Do your current finances evoke emotions of insecurity?
What about your career? Or love life? Why?
Why is self-security so important?
The root of it all is simple: it is hard to build anything healthy and whole from a place of anxiety, worry, hesitance, apprehension, self-doubt, uncertainty, or insecurity. This extends to your finances, your faith in a higher power, your faith in yourself, and certainly can affect the people in your life.
You’ve got to do your work and peel back the layers of insecurity. You’ve got to stop sweeping that worry under the rug. You’ve got to point the flashlight into that dark corner you’ve been avoiding. Yes, it is time to dig it up and look at it.
Look at the weight. Look at your career. Look at your past. Look at your inner child. Look at the wounds of that breakup. Open that locked door of that loved one that passed on. Uncover that secret that is eating you up inside.
It’s time to get real and get raw. It is time to take responsibility and honor your emotions. It’s time to cry, get upset, allow yourself to embrace the shock, or grieve.
The beautiful thing after illuminating the dark areas unspoken about or ignored in your life is that you zap the energy wrap that thing has had over you. You take your power back and control.
When you zap the energy you’ve been subconsciously giving that thing by ignoring it and transform it into acknowledgment, confidence, and self-assurance, you can now be positioned to grow.
Improve your self-security with therapy
Stop feeding insecurity by ignoring how you really feel about situations in your life. Some circumstances are beyond our control but honoring all of your emotions is within your control.
Need help? Our licensed therapists are ready to show you how to get in touch with yourself, process your emotions, and unpack what is sucking you dry of self-confidence, assurance, and worthiness.
You are truly a limitless being who has the ability get out of your own way. You have to start believing in yourself. You’ve got to talk to someone for support and we are here to help you with your self-development.
If you’re struggling with depression, grief, anxiety, low self-esteem, parenting, relational difficulties, or just stress in general, contact us for a free 15-minute consultation and begin to take your life back TODAY.
If you’re interested in developing a more secure sense of self to become a better, happier, and more fulfilled you, we’d love to work with you every step of the way.
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