Are you someone that prays, works on positive thinking, and recites affirmations but somehow still feels stuck?
You know the “stuck” feeling.
Gratitude and positive thinking go a long way, but somewhere deep down you feel like a fraud because your mind and heart are out of alignment.
Your mind says, “I got this!”
Your mind says, “A juicy marriage, abundant finances, and a great circle of uplifting friends are right on my doorstep.”
But your heart says, “No it’s not. There is no such thing as a fairytale marriage, and yea I could have more money and better friends but that requires extra time and effort I just don’t have.”
Despite all of your efforts, does it seem like your desires and your reality are just off?
Often times the gap between what we desire to experience and what shows up in our reality differs because of unforeseen core belief systems.
You may not even know that your limiting core beliefs have been running the show for years, but today you’ve come to the right place. Let’s explore core belief systems.
What are core beliefs?
Core beliefs are core to our identity. These beliefs are deeply buried within and they guide our behavior, how we see ourselves and perceive situations. The beliefs impact how we feel, how we relate to others, how we guide our successes in relationships and life.
These beliefs often register as truths because they are deeply rooted. If someone was to call you by a different name you would like not respond, but if you hear your name in a grocery store, you are likely to respond in some way.
That is how core beliefs work. These “beliefs” register as law to your heart and mind. This is why at times positive thinking and affirmations alone simply don’t do the trick. It just doesn’t feel right.
You may be believing for a raise or for renewed love, but if you have a negative core belief that runs counter to what you are praying and believing for it will feel “unattainable” or just simply wrong. You can also have positive core beliefs such as strong feelings around justice, faith, or education. It is important to note all core beliefs aren’t bad.
However, the “almost there”, “unfulfilled”, “lackluster” areas of our lives are often rooted in negative beliefs systems operating as laws on autopilot directing your thoughts, decisions, and choices in life.
Key Takeaway: These are your silent warriors running the show.
It is important to be gentle with yourself as you uncover these areas and re-write them.
I go over the power of re-writing these beliefs in my 6-week coaching course Worrier to Warrior. The 6-week intensive goes much deeper and you have access to me in a small group live Q&A session. You can also check out my online store here.
Until we see each other there try this exercise:
PART ONE: I encourage you to write down the three biggest areas you would love to change in your life right now and make them specific. Don’t just select, money, love, and friendships. Be specific. What are three goals you have that have you feeling like you are “almost there”?
Example: Hot sex with my partner, releasing 20 pounds, establishing short-term savings (more money).
PART TWO: What are your hindrances? Don’t overthink this, whatever pops up first start with that.
Example: I overeat and don’t exercise enough that is my hindrance to releasing 20 pounds.
PART THREE: Go deeper. Why is PART TWO a hindrance? (this is the place to slip out there is no right or wrong answer)
Example: I think I emotionally eat because I am so bored on my job. Food becomes an excuse and a distraction to take me away from work. I also hate the idea of muscle pain or after workout soreness, so I try to avoid intense workouts.
PART FOUR: Would fixing this hindrance improve my happiness? Why or Why not?
Example: Yes, I would love to go shopping. I would dress better and have an overall improved confidence.
PART FIVE: What are the possible solutions to this hindrance that feel good?
Example: I guess I could join a swim class I always loved swimming. I could also take a staycation or take some time to really figure out what I am missing from my career.
PART SIX: What action steps can you take now? What is the first step?
Example: Lookup swim clubs and price how much it would be to join a class.
PART SEVEN: DO step six.
Now you can clearly see what can be done to improve your happiness right now! This is not the time to put off until tomorrow. You’ve been saying tomorrow forever, and tomorrow is honestly just an excuse. The power of the moment is NOW. Tomorrow is not promised, so why not take back control of your happiness. You are the only one living your life. You are the only one that sits down with your thoughts at night. So give yourself permission to do the things that close the gap between your desires and unfulfilled.
Now is your time.
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